IB/mlx4: Add support for IBoE

IB/mlx4: Add support for IBoE

Add support for IBoE to mlx4_ib.  The bulk of the code is handling the
new address vector fields; mlx4 needs the MAC address of a remote node
to include it in a WQE (for datagrams) or in the QP context (for
connected QPs).  Address resolution is done by assuming all unicast
GIDs are either link-local IPv6 addresses.

Multicast group attach/detach needs to update the NIC's multicast
filters; but since attaching a QP to a multicast group can be done
before the QP is bound to a port, for IBoE we need to keep track of
all multicast groups that a QP is attached too before it transitions
from INIT to RTR (since it does not have a port in the INIT state).

Signed-off-by: Eli Cohen <eli@mellanox.co.il>
[ Many things cleaned up and otherwise monkeyed with; hope I didn't
  introduce too many bugs.  - Roland ]

Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>