netfilter: nf_tables: prepare set element accounting for async updates

netfilter: nf_tables: prepare set element accounting for async updates

Use atomic operations for the element count to avoid races with async
updates.

To properly handle the transactional semantics during netlink updates,
deleted but not yet committed elements are accounted for seperately and
are treated as being already removed. This means for the duration of
a netlink transaction, the limit might be exceeded by the amount of
elements deleted. Set implementations must be prepared to handle this.

Signed-off-by: Patrick McHardy <kaber@trash.net>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>